Patrick Fellows is a 5 time Ironman, TEDx giving, 32 miles swimming, endurance coaching, healthy cooking, entrepreneur and musician.  Born in Dearborn, MI, raised in Mississippi and a Louisianian for 30 years, 

One thing a day?

28 days in a row. I read somewhere that a habit is formed if you can do something for 27 days. I even wrote for 27 days in a row before (maybe more, I didn’t go back and count), but for any of a number of reasons, it didn’t take.

Maybe it was because I set a ceiling on how many days or maybe it’s because I ran out of things to say, but a habit didn’t form and an on again off again relationship with writing (more off) fell into place. 

I’m hopeful that this time is different, but I’m always a full stare away from a day off and I’m constantly asking myself what’s better. Less great or more consistent posts. For the time being consistency is winning. 

As the days pass I find myself doing what I do with a lot of things I do. Mailing in what i feel are subpar posts and continuing on with my day. Not super but still getting it done. My thinking is that if I give it enough time a so called “rug” to tie the room together will emerge. Maybe it has. 

One small idea a day. A short relatable story that impacts one person other than me. Seems simple, right? 

So what will it be today?  An explanation of what this writing is, does not a story make. I’m 230 words in and haven’t really made a point. Ann Kortman of my  high school English class would say I’ve missed the point of the “three point paper,” but alas, it be that way sometimes (so young and relevant).

I guess for this one, the premise is last instead of first and you’ll just have to make believe I did this in order. 

I’ll try and bring a positive point every day. Most of time in the morning so that no matter how the day evolves (devolves), you will at the least have started out right and will maybe be able to reel things in if they go south. 

Over the past couple months our crew has put on a lot of great events. Over that time, stress builds and there’s of course disagreements and tension. We are lucky in that we work with our friends and get to do great things. 

So what’s the point?  Two people can look at a situation and have a completely different viewpoint as to how things progressed and occurred. While there may be right and wrongs, each of those sides are anchored by that person’s perspective and impacted by that individual’s stressors and that’s all that’s real to them. You’ve got to learn to step back and put yourself in someone else’s shoes.  You’ve been hearing that  since you were a kid, but in the day to day, we almost never do it. 

So today. Step back from a situation and ask how someone else is seeing things and consider that before you “decide” your  point of view. 

See before you speak.