Patrick Fellows is a 5 time Ironman, TEDx giving, 32 miles swimming, endurance coaching, healthy cooking, entrepreneur and musician.  Born in Dearborn, MI, raised in Mississippi and a Louisianian for 30 years, 

Living your best life!!!!


It feels like now more than ever we are all searching for something. Happiness, answers, money, love, reasons to make the days better. Or maybe we are just verbalizing more, I mean you’re reading this so clearly I am. Is there really such thing as a “best life” or “living each day to its fullest”?  Or is this pursuit just another way to be less happy.  Newsflash, I don’t know. 

If “living your best life” is the goal, what does that mean for you?  I mean if you made a list of the things that make you happy, would that be a reasonable expectation to attain on a daily basis?  Is the list real things or are we setting ourselves up for ultimate disappointment? 

Sit down and write it out. You have no parameters. It doesn’t matter if your perfect day doesn’t involve working or your seven kids soccer tournaments you are juggling?  Write out the perfect day. What would you eat? What would you do?  What would this perfect life even look like?  

I think you’ll find that it looks like vacation, time to yourself, less life stress, a healthier happier you, better relationships, more experiences, and likely less things. 

CRASH. Back to reality. Sorry. Not sorry. I promise I’m  not about to say you can’t have that. Actually some of the opposite. 

Did you make a list?  Or did you just think about it. I think it’s important to make a list because there’s more to do. Go back and write it down. 

Cool, now that you have it, can you go back and identify how close you are to getting any of those things you say/think would make your life better?  If yes, I think that you are the exception. You see, here’s what I think about all this. 

We waste an enormous “dreaming up” better perfect lives when most of us reading this on $800 phones have it pretty good. 

Really good actually. 

We just don’t take any time to recognize it. 

Your “best life” is about attitude. Not things. It’s about appreciating what you actually have instead of thinking how much better it could be “if only.”  It’s about saying “yeah, I’m 20 lbs overweight but I am still pretty healthy but at least I can change that”

Let’s not forget about your list. Now go back and see if you can’t find those things in how you’re already living. Turn your best life list into a “I’m thankful list.”  I bet you find opportunity for overlap. 

Pick ONE thing on that list that you think is really truly a better life item and for the next month, see how you can get closer to it. 

See. You were closer than you thought. 

You can thank me later. 


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