Patrick Fellows is a 5 time Ironman, TEDx giving, 32 miles swimming, endurance coaching, healthy cooking, entrepreneur and musician.  Born in Dearborn, MI, raised in Mississippi and a Louisianian for 30 years, 

One is all you need.


January feels like 4 months ago. Like 120 days have passed in a blink. If you’re keeping score at home you know how successful you’ve been at all your “new year new me” resolutions. I don’t know how many I thought about internally that I was going to try and keep. But it was certainly more than one. The good news is. I’m 100% on one. That’s a victory. 

Don’t worry, I’m not going to gloat on my perfection for the next 300 words. That’s an a-hole move, and if you’ve been reading you know I’m trying to keep that leaf flipped over.

No, this morning I thought about how maybe the failure of resolutions isn’t that we set unattainable things. It’s that we set too many. Maybe one is all you need. 

I swear that at least once a week I think “damn I’m sore and slow and I gotta change things up to get to where I want to go in sport.”  Like I think a wholesale change in methods and of routine is going to fight age and a bad back. I mean it might. I get home, have coffee and carry on with my day making zero changes. 

Another thing I see happening to me is that I put off doing something until I “finish” something else. Like a book or a different project. I think I’ll certainly get those “hate to dos” off my list just as soon as I’ve read the latest book, etc.  It never happens. Usually by the time I get to the next thing, 20 things have taken that mental space. 

What am I getting at?  Certainly I’m not saying you shouldn’t keep wanting to make changes as change is the biggest way for a lot of us to make progress. This is just a reminder that maybe adding 9 resolutions to the beginning of the year was a sure recipe for failure. One is all you need. 

I started writing on January 3rd and haven’t stopped since. I take this for granted now. It’s just something I do. Not mentioned in this success are the 3-35 other things I either said aloud or decided internally to make changes to. Some had flurries of activity surrounding them but none were committed to and thus are still on the “needs to” list. 

Today is May 3rd. What better day to revisit that list of things you said that “2019 was the year” about. This time go through the list with different criteria. Which one will you feel the best about starting. Pick that one. 

And start. Everyday is a new chance.